This is the most personal post I have written on this blog as of now. Maybe for some this is a totally normal every day activity, but unfortunately I have been influenced by the ‘you must be a loser to be on the dating site’ thing that comes from our loving society. I have always lived a happy life where staying single was something of an issue that never concerned me. I jumped from one relationship to another and enjoyed every minute of it. And then this moment came when I felt I have really overdone it, I am so tired of the men that surround me and I want something fresh and new, someone who has no mutual friends with me if that is even possible.
And then it happened. My close friend from Germany arrived and started to advertise the wonders of online dating and her never ending dating stories and great experiences. I was sceptical but she bought me. Even more I was completely embarrassed to be bumped into by a friend on one of those websites. The power of embarrassment and a weird feeling that came with it was so strong that I just could not make myself do it And then my close and not so close friends have started to openly talk about the possibilities a dating website has to offer, and all this happened within 2-3 months max. Was it a sign?
I was not in a good place, I felt lonely as my friend said women are made to be happy, and I wanted to be happy! Finally, I made myself do it. I spent days researching and creating profiles (these take ages, damn it) and I was ready to be found, but was still super scared to upload a picture again thinking it’s completely embarrassing. This whole thing happened 2 months ago if not less and I am already looking back at how silly I was being so scared. I tried websites like POF, Tinder app, Match and a few Hungarian websites. I even checked out very straight to the point websites like the millionaire search ones probably filled with gold diggers and rich men who are too busy to care.
The experience was great. I felt 15 again remembering the times when I would chat with strangers on school breaks when the whole internet thing happened to the world. I was excited and it was fun I browsed, I replied and it lasted for two weeks or so and then I deleted myself everywhere. The decision had nothing to do with my experiences, I just felt the need for real life human contact and I had it there.
In conclusion, I have to say that these websites are very useful, connecting people around the world and definitely helping a lot find their other half. It is an easy access, sometimes even worth the $ price, because let’s face it, people who really want something are not afraid to pay up. Do not be embarrassed like me because that is stupid and do not over expect, because sometimes it is pure luck, but it might also happen that your future husband is right there just about to click on the message button. Do not believe everything that is being said to you, be optimistic and also do not forget to be sceptical, otherwise you might end up being tricked or worse, and maybe you will end up in a happy relationship, or many happy relationships, because people on the other end are just like you and me.